People screw up everyday. This is not a negative statement; just a realistic one. Intelligent, loving, well-meaning people sometimes make an error in judgement and say or do something silly, or even stupid.
It’s unfortunate that a mistake can only be caught after-the-fact… whether it’s realised a second later or an hour later.. or days later. The key to mistakes, I think, is learning from them.
Too many times, I’ve wished for a delete key in my life. I could delete something I’ve said or written and make the receiving party forget it ever happened. But this would be unfair. Do you want to know why? It would make me seem perfect, when clearly I am not. I don’t set out to make mistakes (who does?) I don’t set out to hurt people I care about. I don’t enjoy screwing up projects or playing bumper cars on the interstate. I’m not happy when I’m impatient. Letting people down? Not my idea of entertainment.
All I can do is:
1. feel remorse;
2. realise the mistake and claim responsibility for it;
3. apologize; and
4. learn from it.
I’m lucky to be surrounded by people who more readily forgive my mistakes than I forgive myself. Or, in some cases feel, “There’s nothing to forgive.” 🙂